Shoes! Simply Shoes!

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. How many times have we heard this phrase? Time and time again, I don't think I know anyone in this day and age who has never heard of this. Well, comfort is in the feet of the wearer. There are many different types of shoes, high heels, low heels, flat heels, rubber soled, diamond soled, plastic soled, leather soled and so many other types of shoes. Ladies will always be judged by the inch of shoes they wear or how flat their shoes are. I will look at another lady and the higher the heel, the more confident I think she is, exaggerated and I get other thoughts. Flat shoes? I admire how confident she is taking that risk and sometimes depending on the outfit, I tend to think she is just being careless.

Some shoes fit us perfectly like gloves, are comfortable, easy and flexible on our feet and they make us feel good and look smart. This is the time, I am sure you will be confident in yourself, because the shoes, look good and feel good. Do you like feeling good? I know I do.




As I was cleaning up and arranging my shoes this morning, it occurred to me that we (people) are just like shoes. We compliment each other in our lives. You might not suit me because you are too high or too colourful, you might have a bubbly, extrovert personality while I am an introvert. You will always know which shoes are bad for you and true to temptation you will buy them and have them in your closet. Bad shoes spoil good feet. Like other pairs of shoes, we can walk with you through your pain, your tears, the mud splats and we come out looking and feeling good.

Sometimes we have no choice but to wear the shoes because they are gifts and sometimes, we have a choice because of what is pleasant to our eyes. Sometimes, no matter how uncomfortable they are we bear the pain and most times, we wear them often because of how good and comfortable they make us feel. Think about it, think about your family and friends, do they compliment you? How do they make you feel? Are you happy? Do you have regrets? Do you have shoes you want to throw out? Do you have shoes you want to give away and forget?

There is a particular pair of shoes that you just love so much. You will wear them, even when they don't compliment your outfit. You will keep them, even when you know you should throw them out. You show them off even when you know you shouldn't. You lend them out even when you know you can't live without them. Shoes... they help you walk a mile, break your leg, make you smile make you cry and sometimes, when you are angry and want to throw them against the wall you remember just how much joy they give you, you wipe away the dust and give them a shine, put them away to be worn on another day.

Some shoes, no matter how beautiful, how lovely, how comfortable they are, the fact that they save you on a bad day and make you look amazing. When its time to let go, let go. You have been together for years, they are still new and gives you the attention you need. You rely on them to make you look amazing. No matter how depend on them you are and nothing can ever come in between you.

At the end of the day, shoes are just shoes. They will just take a while to say goodbye. It will be hard and it will come with a few tears, a few tubs of ice-cream, chocolates and wine. When you are finally done and you wake up and realise that they were just after all only shoes and you can actually do without them, you say good bye, move on  and get another pair of awesome shoes, your treat!

  

My feet, my happiness, happy dancing feet means getting rid of bad shoes. Peace is golden, tranquillity and serenity, unmatched and irreplaceable treasures.  Shoes, I will always get another pair. 

A Riddle.

When I cry, what do you see? Do you see just my tears? Are they tears of joy or tears of sorrow?
Do you see my sorrow? Do you see my joy?
When I smile, what do you want to see? That I smiled and that I am okay? Do you see the love I have for you?
Do you see the sorrow I am trying to hide?
When you listen, what do you hear? My love for you? My joy that  I have you in my life or the errors and mistakes that I have made in the past?
When you look at me, what do you see? Do you see how much I love you?
Do you see how grateful I am to have you in my life or do you see my past and everything that goes with it?
When I cry, its because I am happy. You make me happy and you are the reason I smile.
When I smile, its because I can't help being grateful for having you in my life.
When I listen, I enjoy how much you are like soothing music to my heart and my ears.
When I look at you, I am grateful for the blessing of having you in my life.
To be truly happy, means to be truly appreciative of you and to realise the dream that you are in my life.
The joy that I have in my heart is unmatched, the pain I feel when I miss you is unsurpassed, the single moment I spend with you is more than amazing, your smile lights up my day, when you talk, how melodious and sensible you are.
When I am in doubt, you assure me of my strengths, when I am sad, you lighten my day.
"They" say that no one can make you complete, yet you seem to complete my life in utmost totality.
Yes, with you by my side, I can conquer the world.
GN, DH & JW...I love you to pieces. Literally.

BITTER SWEET

I recently put up a post on my Facebook Page. The post “I woke up this morning, looked back and understood why I left some things/people behind. I looked left and understood why I have some on the left. I looked to my right and saw that the people I have always considered right in my life have left me broken hearted. I looked ahead and saw that I can make new and right choices. A new dawn.” My friend Siri, immediately asked me if I still write my blog and I realized it has been a while. While I use this platform to write opinions, my opinions and my friends’ opinions and stories, this particular one is based on my own intimate and personal thoughts. I have emphasized how Siri reminds me that I write sob stories. At the end of each story is a realization. The post on Facebook was not a realization or a cryptic message to anyone, and definitely not a sob story and I hope none of you took it as such. It was meant to be a motivational message. It was to serve as a reminder that before you are strong enough to love other people, you have to love yourself. Only then can you allow yourself to be loved by others and you to love other people.

I had just gone through a period where I felt like I was jumping from one relationship to the next and there was just no space in between for me to breath or find out just who I am or what I want to do. I did not want to keep on asking “why?” I want to say “what am I doing about it?” and currently that is what I am doing. I am asking myself, “how am I going to get this?” “when should I get it?”.
But I know this and I am sure that you will agree with me. “You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose.”-J O Coudert. #stolen.

Therefore, as you go through your business in life, each step you take, each person you meet, remain focused and remember a few things. Some of these I live by and some I believe in. All of them have taught me to be self-confident and self-assured. How do you feel about gossiping? While you are busy gossiping, I am busy taking care of my business. It doesn’t mean that I do not gossip, I find my time better spent doing other things. Like, let’s discuss my goals, my aspirations, my dreams and how I am going to achieve all these.

I also know that when something is on my mind, I will say it. In high school, my desk mate went and told on me about a kiss I had with a boy, and the boy was angry, I didn’t speak to my desk mate for two weeks. I would write notes to her instead, to me that constituted no talking. Was she wrong? No, she was not. Did I know it, no, I felt like she was infringing on my happiness. Therefore, my friends, the truth is always a bitter pill to swallow. You will come to see it later. I was mad at her for a long while but in the real sense she had my best interests at heart. I came to respect her for it later. It is well known that you cannot see the log in your own eye but will easily notice the speck in the other person’s eye. The older I have become, the more mature my mind has become.

Remember to be humble. One special person I met about seven years ago, despite the fact that I was rude to this person, I have come to learn many things from him and he still teaches me a lot. You will be to note that upto date, I will still ask him for assistance and guidance. Always humble and courteous and he will always be honest. Even when I don’t want to hear it, he will explain it to me like I’m a two year old. Considering how busy he is, I always appreciate the time he takes to pay attention to me. Thank you my special friend.
I am not where I want to be at the moment and you have a right to your opinion. I understand that your opinion is about you and while I value your input, I sometimes may not necessarily agree with your choices. I relish being alone because I get the time to think and plan and get to see a way forward. Believe it or not, all the decisions I have made that and those that I based also on my instincts have come from being alone. My alone time it tranquil.

The last of all of my sentiments is that, and please my friends and family take note of this, I do not take things personally.  Let’s take for example, you get cut but ignore it because you think it is a small one and it will heal quickly. The more you ignore it the more it gets infected. By the time you decide to take care of it, it is already highly infected. The healing process will be very slow and very painful. Well, in my life, that is exactly what I want to avoid. Once I get that cut, I want to deal with it quickly so I can avoid the slow and painful healing process. At the end of it all, it is you and your conscience. Therefore, please understand that I love you and I will hold nothing personal against you. I sincerely have no time and energy to.

Get supporters NOT fans. You are the choices you make.  I love you all.

Drafting The Past-THE SILENT YEAR!

Today is exactly one year since I wrote anything, in my journal and right here, where I share all the good things and mostly the sob stories :-) . I have a lot to tell you and share. A summary will do though. People got married, I lost a friend and a cousin and more people got married. I made more friends and lost some in the process.

I had a very routine life up until February this year, when everything just started being erratic. Yes, in the very definition of erratic, my life became completely erratic. It was wonderful. To say that I have been busy will be an understatement and all these things that have been happening, have been wonderful. A friend mentioned that I write sob stories and I realized just how true that was. This is basically because since I became a happy person, I have not written anything, I just smiled when I wrote that because it is actually not true. The lesson in life is that I should not depend on anyone else for my happiness and true, since this came to light, despite the challenges that I am undergoing, I always remember that it is upto me to be and stay happy.

We had an explosive "book" written, my friend and I and the title is "The Journal" once we review all the details and see whether it is good, we shall consider taking it to a publisher. As of now we are filling in the "meat".

I realized that the people who called themselves my friends did not understand me at all and would talk "carelessly" to me, as a dear friend would put it. I realized why some marriages end even after 60 years of living together. Same with friendships, no matter how long you have been together, if you keep account of the injury, or rather the wrong, then you might not be friends. Instead, forgive, forget and move on from the injury and always better, from the person.

Close friends got married, which is actually the highlight of the silent year. Children were born and love was nurtured. Yes, in these couple of months many things came to mind and came to play. I remember one Bible scripture which made me even happier because, it made so much sense to me. 1 Thessalonians 4:11. I am sure that you are curious and want to know what it says, I will tell you this much, It described the life I want to live from now on. The life I have chosen and decided to direct my ways accordingly.

As we age, or rather come of age, we are reminded that we do not need to have many friends, rather have people who know and you know that you can rely on. Friendship is overrated, just ask my friend Siri, she will tell you and we have been friends for the longest time ever. 

Nothing beats this feeling. 

Well, being back feels really good and I will let you in on a little secret, I am back, I am hotter and I am in love.