When Life Throws You a Curve-ball.

A curve ball is a ball that is pitched with a snap of the wrist and a strong downward spin, which causes the ball to drop suddenly and deceptively veer... and in life a curve-ball is when things happen so fast in your life that it causes you to get confused and start viewing it from a different angle. Most of us go through this in our daily lives and for some of us who can handle the pressure, we do so effortlessly and gracefully. For others, we choose to commit suicide, an easier way out. Others as yet suffer a nervous breakdown and what do you know...they go mental. And life has its ways of dealing us these curve-balls. Now, depending on how well you handle the pressure and pull it out we still have to stand firm and smile like nothing has happened. Right...there is the smile I want. 

Recently I learnt that not all that glitters is gold, it glitters, it is golden but it is not gold. And if it glitters... I have many acquaintances  few friends and even fewer very close friends. Yes, that is how my life is and as of now, my life is very complicated. I love my life and cannot change anything about it. I didn't understand how a man or woman can fall in love twice. I am a believer that if you fall in love once it is with one person, if that person hurts you, you can never fall in love again. Yes, that's me. 

A few months ago, I fell in love again. How did I know? I just knew 

Loving him came easy, he made time for me, I love the way he talks, and smiles, I see myself having his children despite the fact that I had said I will not have children. He made me so annoyed yet I still wanted to try and make him happy, he respects me, he loves me and he tells me the truth. There is a saying that "bad taste is when you are about to tell a close friend the BITTER truth." I am as bad an adviser as there can ever be in this lifetime and the next. I am a good listener but I cannot and choose not to and prefer never to give advice to anyone. I believe that you should make your own decisions. This one came easy to me. I want him and like an ogre with his beast...(I hope) nothing will keep me away from him. 

And recently, as much as I can easily analyse someone's  character, I was lacking in that talent when I hooked up. Yeah,he was my friend, once in a while escapades, I was all about the fun and laughter and about only the good things in life. There is a song that sings "Wise men said, only fools rush in". It took me over 5 years to realize that I am in love with this guy and now that I know, I am on cloud 9. Yet...there is a curve-ball. A spinning, fast curve-ball. I waited too long. 

Trust

First, trust is defined as belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. 

We all know that it plays a crucial part in our lives and as we all know, it is quite important for us to have trust in our daily lives and our daily activities. Yes, trust has a very big part to play in our lives. Not only in people but in the machines we use, the telephone services we use and basically everything else. Time and time again, that trust is broken and once that link is broken, it takes a long time to regain it or rebuild it. 





We all know that once a glass breaks, and if you want to put together the pieces, the task will no doubt be very daunting. Yes, that is no doubt how we feel sometimes when someone you trust shatters that trust that you had in him. 

I had a very interesting experience the other day. A friend of mine whom I have known for years recommended one of his friend to me to transact business with. Now, on this occasion  it was an issue of desperate moments calls for desperate measures. I was a bit skeptical and even put my radar on high alert. My instincts were flaring RED! RED! but because I had complete and uttermost trust in my friend, I decided that I shall do the deed and close the deal. 

The deal, yes, it was closed and small issues started arising from every corner and I felt like I would kill my friend. But in reality, my friend did not have and does not have any faults because all he did was to put in a good word for the other guy and what I should have done was to check my facts and have the correct figures and all, before I actually went ahead and closed the deal.  It landed me in huge problems. Problems that I had not foreseen myself in ever. And the worst thing was that this was a preventive problem. 

I have learned that I will have my facts straight and I know I will get it right the next time. Word of caution....