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I was talking to a friend of mine about being single and then I mentioned the topic to my workmate and we got to an argument. My definition of single is different, so people I need your help. My friend, the one I was talking to, mentioned that she was single and I think to me, she had had many short lasting relationships in between that period of being single, meaning?

My workmate said that there are many types of being single, there is single and ready to mingle and single and ready for a relationship. Here, flings are included and still you are single. Help me out here guys, I just seem not to get it. Flings are relationships are they not?

Ok, for me, single means that you are alone, no flings, maybe a couple of failed dates here and there and according to society’s rules, engaging in meaningless casual sex. Now that is being single.

Here, with the use of a dictionary, let us define the term “single.” As an adjective, single means alone, sole, one, unmarried, solitary. And Wikipedia defines a single person as someone who is not in a relationship or is "unmarried.

Now, let us define relationships, relationships mean being connected, a relationship means " the way in which two or more people or things are connected with or involve each other." 

Now, for me single means being alone, enjoy yourself and your skin, allowing yourself to be a bit lonely because you have no one to call at anytime and allowing yourself to enjoy you. For me being single involves a lot of freedom to be who you are, to do what you want and to be who you want without limitations. Single involves ALWAYS putting yourself first and not putting up with crap, or late night calls. In this case, no sexual relationship is involved.

I have not been involved with a man for a while now since my last relationship, I have been single now for almost a year straight. Leaving out the failed dates and heart breaking crush-es, I am happy that I have by choice decided to be and do whatever it is that I want, whenever and however I want it.

Since the argument sticks, that my definition of single is wrong, help me out and help me understand. 

I need your help.